Over the past two weeks I have heard a lot about Joshua Harris and his departure from not only his wife, but from Christ and the Church. This story is heartbreaking to me, as is any story about someone getting divorced or leaving their faith in Jesus Christ. I read his two books nearly fifteen years ago, and they weren't life-shattering. My family taught and upheld basic Christian sexual ethics already. The main message of his books were simply nice anecdotes in support of vi
Over the weekend I traveled to visit my sister and met her fiancé's family. I was so glad to meet them. Especially Kirkland.*
Kirkland is one of her fiancé's nephews, and is actually older than my sister. He liked to make that point very clear as he called her "Auntie." Kirkland possesses a very strong sense of humor. He and I sat near one another at the table, and we talked pleasantly throughout the night. We laughed over many jokes, and we have much in common. On the driv
There is a movie coming out this weekend. It's called Boy Erased, and it is about "Conversion Therapy." It is an anguishing story of a boy and his parents trying desperately to overcome his "being gay." When the trailer came out a few months ago, I was immediately tagged on Facebook and asked for my response. I had to decline. What could I say in response other than, "the trailer is emotionally poignant and incredibly well put together. The story told in the trailer causes my
Have I “polluted the spring water of friendship with the filth of concupiscence?” That's borrowing language from Saint Augustine of Hippo. I didn't know what the word "concupiscence" meant until I looked it up recently. The idea of concupiscence is central in a debate being waged around the Revoice Conference. I wrote briefly about this conference before.
So What is Concupiscence? According to a quick search for a dictionary definition, concupiscence is lust. Especially sex
Someone wrote the word "gay" with their finger on the dusty spoiler of my car. I want to make it absolutely clear that I am not "gay." Neither am I "homosexual." I am a "same-sex attracted" man. Why do I make such a big deal about the use of words like “gay,” “homosexual,” and “same-sex attracted?” For two reasons: First, I’ve always loved precision. I’m the kind of jerk who will correct people online about their improper word choice and grammar. More than that, I'm the kind
This book is filled with anecdotes which are used to teach eternal truths from Scripture. The stories don’t go in order, but are weaved together in the same way ingredients are pulled together in a meal. This book is like a great meal. It challenges me in every chapter. Do I live out radical ordinary hospitality? Surely I am excused from doing this, right? Shouldn’t I be exempt from this practice because I am a single man who rents a room and struggles with pornography addict
When I saw this T-shirt, I had to say something about it. This weekend I was spending a few short days with friends in Lynchburg, VA. I got to see some friends who had just taken the Bar exam. I watched a very talented friend perform in the title role of the show "Barnum." I also met a dad who was wearing a very provocative shirt. It took me a while to come up with that word to describe the shirt. When I first saw him enter the restaurant where I was eating, I couldn't tell w
This book is a modern retelling of the Parable of the Prodigal Son. Christopher Yuan is joined by Angela Yuan, his mother, in telling this story of two prodigals who are redeemed by Christ. It is a Prodigal Son story, which details the way the prodigal spent the wasted years, and how years of faithful prayer are answered. Christopher went by Chris before he was redeemed. He lived the quintessential "gay lifestyle," filling his nights with sex, dancing, and drugs. These things
I am a Christian first and foremost. My identity in Christ prevails over all other aspects in each dimension of my life. . .